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On Moving On: the only way to go is forward

On Moving On: the only way to go is forward

Heartbreak is a motherfucker.  For someone who praises herself in being invincible, heartbreak broke me. It is something when the one person you love decides that they no longer love you. How do you move on? How do you make a way for life with someone else? How are you supposed to go on?

50 cent was wrong, progress is a slow process. When our hearts get broken, we tend to want to skip over the sad parts and get to the greater parts of life. We want to forget about our griefs, to forget about the mourning period after we let go of a relationship, not acknowledge a personal failure and rush to the better part of life. It never fails though: rushing to something new never fixes the issue, only delays it. By avoiding to face the pain you will always cheat yourself out of a great opportunity to grow and learn. And who said growth was comfortable?

I am here to tell you that I don’t have the answers. I don’t know how to move on after a heartbreak, I just know how to go forward. And perhaps that is the answer.

What is forward? 

For those who might wonder what it means to go forward, know that it can mean anything to you. Forward can be learning to disconnect from the daily life, unplugging from your anxious thoughts, refusing to stay at home and sulk and replay the same scenario in your mind and enjoying a night off with your friends. Forward can mean untagging yourself from horrible Facebook pictures that remind you of a moment that is long gone. It can mean opening up your heart to someone new. It can mean making new plans. Forward is anything you want, as long as you're moving on. 

I am now convinced that forward is the only way to go. You only needs to keep moving, one small step after the other. Soon enough, you’ll have traveled miles and your past losses will seem like forever ago. 

Just take it easy, one step at a time.

 

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